The heart-stopping moment we all feel when something tragic and unexpected happens; grief. I know this firsthand when I lost my mom in 2023.
The feeling is so paralyzing and disorienting that even wishing it on our worst enemy, especially as believers, would be out of character. As traumatizing as grief feels, unfortunately, no one is exempt, not even Christians. We live in a fallen world full of hurt and pain.
So much so that even our Savior Jesus Christ went through grief, as recorded in:
- John 11:35 (“Jesus wept”)
- Luke 19:41
- Hebrews 5:7-9
Even in our loneliness during grief, it should never hinder us from remembering who God is to us.
Where Is God When We’re Grieving?
When unfortunate circumstances strike, one of the first thoughts is: Where is God in all of this?
Let us be encouraged, God does not desire to hurt us. It’s human to want answers, but in His perfect love and nurturing nature, we can find comfort and healing.
James 1:2–4 encourages us to:
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance…”
Grief may break our hearts, but it also builds perseverance, spiritual maturity, and deeper trust in God.
Faith-Based Truths About Grief
Grieving Doesn’t Mean You’re Selfish
One of the lies the enemy tries to whisper during this time is that you’re being selfish. That is not true.
- Lean into God’s presence, He will guide your path.
- It’s okay to want space and to process things on your own terms.
- Adjusting to life after loss takes time. Let yourself go through that journey.
- Prioritize your healing and spiritual growth during this season.
Remember: This is your personal journey with God, and not everyone will understand it. That’s okay.
God Allows Us to Grieve
Even Jesus Christ grieved. And so did Job, a man who knew pain intimately.
It would be unfair for God to expect us to move on like nothing happened. That’s not what He asks of us. In Job’s story, we see: Grief and loss, yes, but we are so see redemption, restoration and unwavering faith.
God uses grief to show His mighty power, to prove that He is bigger than our pain. Our faith is tested, but through that, we are refined and strengthened.
Grief Does Not Mean Weakness
You’re crying. You feel lost. And that’s okay. You’re human. processing emotions is healthy, vulnerability is not weakness, it is in fact a sign that you find strength in Christ. Social media might paint a picture of perfection, but real healing comes from authenticity.
Instead of shame or judgment, let’s embrace each other with Christ-like compassion. Your grief is not something to hide; it’s something to surrender to Jesus Christ.
Grief Is Not Lack of Faith
During grief, it’s common to feel:
- Distant from God
- Unsure of your faith
- Overwhelmed by doubt
This does not make you faithless, it makes you real.
Hebrews 11:6 says:
“Without faith it is impossible to please God… He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.”
Even a mustard seed of faith is enough if it’s sincerely given to God. Use what little strength you have, and God will meet you there.
Grief Does Not Mean You’re a Bad Christian
People might make you feel like you’re not “Christian enough” based on how you grieve. But they don’t know your pain. Only God does.
Sometimes, we even start believing:
- “God is punishing me”
- “This is my fault”
These are lies from the enemy. God loves you just as much in your grieving season as He did before it. He’s not mad at you, He’s near you. Remember: You are still valuable, still loved, and still part of His kingdom.
Final Encouragement
Grief is a valley many of us walk through. As Christians, we are not immune, but we are never alone.
So whether you feel:
- Angry
- Broken
- Numb
- Hopeful
Know that God sees you, loves you, and is working in your pain. Let Him walk with you, comfort you, and restore you, just like He did with Job, David, and even His own Son, Jesus Christ.
Also Read : 4 Prayers For The Broken-Hearted
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