Love; an expression of divine acceptance that Jesus Christ demonstrated when He took away our sins on the cross. It’s a selfless act that He calls us to show others. But before we extend that love outward, it must begin within. A powerful revelation to practice in your single season.
The Bible tells us in Mark 12:31, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” This implies that the way we love ourselves determines how well we can love others. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and that’s why learning how to love yourself in your single season is essential.
Why Loving Yourself Matters in your Single Season
It’s hard to give love when you haven’t embraced your own value. This is especially true in romantic relationships. As believers, we’re called to reflect God’s love through our actions. That starts with a deep, intimate relationship with Him, before anyone else.
When God is your foundation, He will guide you through the Holy Spirit to the right partner, someone who complements your purpose. Yes, loneliness can creep in, especially when the desire for marriage and children burns strongly. But trust that God’s timing is perfect, and the Holy Spirit offers comfort and peace in the waiting.
Don’t measure yourself by the pressures and timelines that people and society may place upon you because, you were created with a divine plan of God. Trust that during this time, He is perfecting and growing in you the character and spiritual walk that you will need in your next season, so, in the meantime:
Here’s how you can make the most of your single season and truly love yourself the way God intended:
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1. Get Closer to God in your single season
Your single season is the perfect time to deepen your relationship with God. Let Him shape your heart, guide your desires, and prepare you for your future spouse. Marriage is God’s idea, and it’s better to align with His perfect will than to follow fleeting emotions.
When you find your purpose in Christ, it becomes easier to discern a God-ordained relationship from a distraction. Seek Him first, and all else will follow (Matthew 6:33).
2. Embrace Self-Acceptance
True self-love begins with accepting who you are in Christ. Stop comparing your journey to others. God has a unique assignment for your life, and each season has a divine purpose.
Trying to rush the process shows a lack of trust in God’s timing. Instead, learn the lessons He’s teaching you now. Your current season is preparation for the miracles ahead.
3. Heal from the Past
Unhealed wounds can block your blessings. Your single season is the time to address past traumas, let go of toxic relationships, and allow God to heal you fully.
When you’re whole, you can set healthy boundaries and recognize what’s meant for you. Healing helps you love from a place of freedom, not fear.
4. Practice Your Love Languages
Understanding how you want to be loved helps you teach others how to love you. Self-love is your responsibility. Learn your love languages, whether it’s acts of service, words of affirmation, or quality time, and give those to yourself.
People can’t be your source of happiness, only God can. When you’re fulfilled in Him, love becomes an overflow, not a demand.
5. Build Godly Friendships
Proverbs 27:9 (NIV) says, “Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice.”
Godly friendships are a blessing during your single season. Surround yourself with people who encourage your walk with Christ, pray with you, and offer Holy Spirit-led counsel. These relationships will keep you grounded and help you navigate future romantic relationships with wisdom and accountability.
Your single season is not a curse, it’s a calling.
A time to grow, heal, and love yourself as God loves you. Embrace it. Use it to build a strong foundation in Christ. The right person will come, but until then, love yourself well, because you are already chosen, accepted, and deeply loved by God.
With Love, from your sister in the Lord
Annie Chikonjiwe
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