
‘What men can do; women can also do in high heels.’” Not sure if I phrased this statement correctly, as this is when it crossed my mind, as I often heard it growing up.
There were moments when this felt empowering, but as time has gone by and I have conducted my research, I have come to understand that this topic has sparked debates and scrutiny.
While feminism advocates for equality for women in society, its movements have long been questioned, particularly within the Christian faith and its impact on women.
I approach this topic knowing that not everyone will agree with my opinions, but I also approach it with confidence, understanding what the word of God says and permits for the human race
As this clash has led to tension amongst religious communities, with some viewing feminism as hostile to Christianity.
While the idea of feminism may seem progressive at first glance, at its root, it seeks to dismantle the God-given male authority over certain aspects of the human structure in the world, particularly regarding submission.
Most people seem to pick and choose which Bible verses to address and run with it, without reading its full context.
Let’s delve deeper into the renowned verses in Ephesians on the concept of submission.
Paul, the author of the book, in chapter 5 vs 21, provides instructions for Christian households and begins by telling us in the NIV, “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,”
clearly indicating that submission is not a one-way street; both husband and wife ought to submit to one another because it is worship to God. Verse 22 encourages wives to “submit themselves to their husbands as they do to the Lord.”
I must admit, upon the initial reading of this verse, it seems unjust and demeaning to a woman.
As a feminist, I would contemplate, “Why must I belittle myself and receive instruction from a fellow human who is my equal?”
Forgetting that the man himself is also equally under God’s submission and the instructions that he gives to a woman are not his own, but rather what God instructs him to do.
The answer to this then comes in verses 25-28 as it says in the NIV, “husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved through the word and to present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless, in this same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.”
Ladies, we ought to remember we have the final say in which man we choose to submit to, with the Bible making things easy for us on the man who qualifies.
Let’s go back to the beginning with the book of Genesis.

Genesis 2 vs 8 NIV, “Now the Lord God planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed.”
Often times, there is debate on the location of Eden on earth and if it still exists, and the answer is yes, it does.
The meaning of Eden is a place of pleasure, a place where man meets God, the intended purpose that God had when he created the earth for man was that it would be a place of serenity where man could freely live and worship God and talk to God directly
But sin bridged that gap, and Jesus later restored that relationship with God and man.
The point that I’m trying to put across here is that a man worthy of a woman’s submission should be found in the presence of God, worshiping, praising, and getting instructions only from God and not the world.
Genesis 2 vs 15 NIV, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.”
A man that is submitted under the will of God will always have a purpose and plan for his life that will glorify God and help him provide for himself and his family.
This must not mean that he must make millions and have a luxury lifestyle, while those things bring comfort and God is capable of providing them, they are not the representation of what a hard-working man who is submitted under God should look like .
And that’s why it is very dangerous for a woman to submit to a man who is not submitted under God because he will not know his purpose here on earth.
Equally so, it is also important for a woman to know that just because a man is “working and providing” doesn’t mean he’s fulfilling his purpose.
Genesis 2 vs 16 NIV, “But you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”
Word on how to live life according to God’s standards was given to man first. Which leads us back to Ephesians 5 vs 25-28;
submission for women according to God’s intended plan was meant to be given to a man who has all these qualities mentioned above because only then will he be able to understand how to love a woman of God as he loves himself, wash her with the word, and teach her on ways to go as instructed by the Lord and present her back to himself because she is equally an assignment given to him by God.
Unless we take hold and uphold this structure that God has presented to us and see the benefits that it has for us women, more so in the Christian community
We will always feel belittled at the thought of submitting, especially when we lean more to society’s opinions and not the word of God.
Many times, women in the world will meet a man outside God’s will and purpose who will treat them other than the intended plan of God and then justify the negative stance on submission which leads them to create their own structural system
And what are these feminist belief systems?

Challenges to traditional Gender Roles: One of the primary areas of dispute between feminism and Christianity lies in their different opinions on the gender roles of women in society.
While feminists will advocate for the freedom of choice for a woman and often push for a woman to be the head over a man in final decision making in a household
whereas Christian women are instructed in the book of 1 Corinthians 11 vs 3 NIV, “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.”
This tension can create confusion and conflict for Christian women who navigate between their faith and feminist ideals because for one
God’s instruction for gender roles in the book of Titus as written by the Apostle Paul after man had fallen short of his glory was that;
Titus 2 vs 3-5 NIV, “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
While feminism seeks to challenge the societal expectation that women should prioritize marriage and motherhood above all else
Some Christian teachings emphasize the importance of these roles. This conflict can leave Christian women feeling torn between their desire for sovereignty and their religious beliefs.
Reflecting on the saying “there is no greater touch than a woman’s” and why it makes sense, God himself created us for this purpose
To be homemakers, to build our home with love, peace, and comfort for our husbands and children.
This, however, does not mean that women aren’t allowed to work; of course, we are, as given the example of the Proverbs 31 woman.
But this should not come at a cost where the household is left neglected because of the attempt to provide
As women are created to be helpers to a man’s vision and not the other way round, not to say that we are to give up our hopes and dreams for that to happen.
Which is why it is important to submit to a man who is in alignment with your vision, we were created to be suitable helpers to men
So, before submission, make sure you both have a shared vision that you both want to achieve.
1 Timothy 5 vs 8 NIV, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
Men were created to be the sole providers of a household, as instructed by God.
Provision does not limit to just money and food; just like Christ is the provider of us His bride, the man should also provide comfort, a safe space for a woman to come and be herself.
As women nurture their children, they also long to be nurtured and cared for by their husbands, as it is true that to a certain extent , a woman’s happiness around her children and life is dependent upon the husband’s treatment towards her.
Colossians 3 vs 19 NIV, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
A lot of women tend to fear submission because most men in society don’t possess this quality. Most men don’t make it easy for women to submit, as very few understand the concept of submission.
I do agree from some of my experience and that of many out there who have lived the torture of men abusing the role and turning it into ownership of a woman
Forgetting that it’s a sin to do so as instructed in the Bible which is why as a Christian woman I would strongly advice my fellow believers to study a man’s character before agreeing to be subjected under his will and instructions.
1 Peter 3 vs 7 NIV, “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”
Any husband who is cruel towards their wife is defying the will of God. Women being the weaker vessel doesn’t mean they are weaker in the grace of God or salvation, as we are the same.

Reproductive Rights and Sexual Ethics: Feminist advocacy for reproductive rights, including access to contraception and abortion, can also conflict with certain Christian teachings on sexual ethics and the holiness of life.
This divide has led to heated debates within religious communities, with some Christian women feeling alienated by feminist positions on these issues being that scripture doesn’t directly talk about abortion but gives account on when life starts in Psalm 139 vs16 NIV “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book.”
The Search for Incorporation: Despite these tensions, many Christian women find ways to reconcile their faith with feminist principles.
Some argue that feminism aligns with the teachings of Jesus, who championed the rights and dignity of women.
Others advocate for a reinterpretation of scripture in light of contemporary understandings of gender equality.
However, achieving this combination requires gripping with complex scriptural and ideological questions.
I will end with this, the relationship between feminism and Christianity is a complex and multifaceted issue, particularly for women within the faith.
While feminism has played a crucial role in advancing women’s rights and challenging male-controlled structures, its compatibility with traditional Christian teachings remains a subject of debate.
Ultimately, the impact of feminism on Christian women is deeply influenced by individual beliefs, experiences, and interpretations of scripture.
As society continues to evolve, navigating these tensions will require dialogue, empathy, and a willingness to engage with diverse perspectives.
It’s nice to read thoughts that differ from your own. You articulated your points with tact and respect while not mincing your words.
Thank you for sharing on this topic. ☺️
Pastor Natalie (Examine This Moment)
Letstakeamoment.com
This is a hard subject to address these days. I love how you say we have the final word on whom we submit. I think this is the crux of your post: don’t choose an ungodly man because this kind of man can be controlling and abusive. My husband is loving, good, and kind, so following him is easy. He almost always has my best interest at heart. He’s gone with holes in his shoes so we could buy new shoes. He’s a real servant and follower of Jesus first.
Thank you so much for speaking these truths. Feminism and feminists are doing more harm than good. We have been given roles and submission has been a word, like many other words, that have lost its originality and beauty. Submission does not mean to be under someone’s foot but rather work with. Submission to a husband is not demeaning but a beautiful role!
I’ve been absent for some time, but now I remember why I used to love this blog. Thanks, I’ll try and check back more frequently. How frequently you update your site?