The most tragic thing that happens to someone is setting high expectations for something or from someone and in turn having it not turn out as we hoped.
Like many others reading this right now, I think we can all agree that the feeling of being let down by any situation is hard to grasp and even harder to face.
It’s in times like this where we feel like giving up on a lot of things and don’t have the motivation to even pursue the other things we were once excited about.
How tough it feels to carry on with life after an unexpected turn that at the time changes the next trajectory of our moves.
Whether be it a job or relationships or even an exam
Our heart feels clogged and unable to find the strength to try again because we suddenly feel unequipped and unworthy for the thing that at one point we felt so confident and so happy pursing.
To whoever is going through this situation right now, I hope the tips below help you pull through and bounce back from the hurt and pain you are feeling right now.
ACCEPTANCE- often times we get stuck in the past thinking of ways we could have prevented things from happening the way they happened.
The ability to realize that you did your best and gave your all in that moment really is the turning point and will begin your healing journey.
It is normal most times to want to beat ourselves down and want to blame ourselves for things that went wrong.
However, it is also important to reflect on how hard you tried and realize that it wasn’t your fault then focus on the next chapter.
GET UP- beating yourself up won’t solve the problem. After accepting the after-math of things, allow yourself to not be stuck in the same place.
Stop drowning in the sorrow of things that cannot be changed, there is more to life than sadness.
Lying in bed or that darkness will only cause depression and self-doubt, it is important to not keep yourself in a state of negative reflection for too long.
Distract yourself with positive activities like exercise or your favorite hobby that you like to do by yourself or with loved ones.
In that way, you will quickly move on from the negative space that you are currently in.
TALK TO SOMEONE- it is very important to speak to people we feel comfortable with over things that are causing us destress.
Like I mentioned, beating yourself up won’t change the situation,
But opening up to someone who might see things from a third eye’s perspective really does make a difference in the situation.
Sometimes we really need the clearance from other people to sometimes calm us down and really show us how we could change or grow from the situation.
Most times, the only person that stands in between our betterment and self-improvement may be ourselves.
It really serves us enough encouragement most times when we get that extra push from someone who will give us that motivation that we need to bounce back from the situation that was causing us weakness and pain.
And also, we begin to see things for how they really are and the unnecessary negative imagination that we have planted in our minds.
AFFIRM YOURSELF- replace those negative words that have been built up in your head that will cause permanent damage to your life and instead;
Start speaking words that will bring a positive outcome to your situation and encourage your mind to see beauty in yourself.
Sometimes we just have to be our own superhero and cheerleader especially in tough situations that we see no way out.
There is power in our tongue, “what you say becomes” which in most cases proves that we only work towards things we believe and say to ourselves we will make happen.
And if we are rapped up in negative energy, it will be what we reflect day to day with everything we do
And also on the other hand
Life is full of people with negative energy and who have nothing but hate to spread around.
Don’t let those words spoken about you serve as confirmation to what you already think of yourself.
Turn your life around, it starts with the words you say and things in your life that you speak over yourself that you believe will come to fruition.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AGAIN- you can do this; you were made for all the things you believe in even though sometimes doubts creeps in.
Stand firm in what you know your strengths are and learn to grow from your weaknesses.
Take a moment to actually reflect on things that actually made you make the decision to start that relationship or job or whatever you are disappointed from right now.
Most times, when we reflect, we find that it was the love and courage that got us there, take time to affirm yourself and to know that
You have so much love and courage within you that is pressed behind that disappointment you feel right now.
It is important reflect on who you were before all this happened and eventually, you will master that courage to believe you can be all you were destined to be.
TRY AGAIN- fall down 7 times get up 8, right? It is important to learn from past mistakes and how you will be able to learn and grow from them in the next attempt.
It doesn’t always mean you have to go back to the very thing to correct it in most cases, just learn from that and how you will build yourself and try again even stronger than you did last time.
It is also important to ask people that have been in your shoes before on ways they improved and how they bounced back as community is important for everyone, you can’t always recover on your own.
HAVE HOPE FOR THE FUTURE- the vital part of bouncing back from disappoint is having faith to know that things are going to be even better than they were before.
The recovery process is not fun, especially when we reach a point where we don’t see the effects of our transformation journey.
I must point out that the healing process was never meant to be fun, any major transformation will definitely take you out your comfort zone but nothing grows in our comfort zone, right?
As you begin your healing journey? It is important to have a right mind set for the future.
It really doesn’t matter what anyone says about anything in the moment, the important part is you and your mental-health
You are what matters and what God thinks about you not others
It is also important to choose who to talk to in this moment. Some advice may be the thing that hiders us from our next chapter
Pick people who will actually want to see you live your life to the best of your ability as we all are fragile during our healing season
Disappointment is tough but there’s always a way out of it even if it may not look like it in the moment
These tips listed may not all that you need but they may assist in some level of importance in the starting point of your healing journey.
Remember it’s your journey and no one should determine how fast or slow this should take as everyone’s healing journey is dependent on how much they had to endure.
Don’t beat yourself up when things aren’t as easy as they seem to be in the moment.
The little strength that you put in every day towards healing yourself really does make a huge difference even though sometimes we may not realize it.
A little reminder before I close off, just trust the process and more importantly trust in your ability to overcome
Trust and believe that they will be brighter days.